Our relationships with our neighbors can be a mixed bag. In some communities, neighbors develop lifelong friendships, support one another and connect authentically and on a regular basis. In others, however, arguments and lawsuits can quickly become the norm.
The reality is that neighborly relationships are complex and can be difficult to manage. After all, we start out as virtual strangers living right next to one another!
Luckily, it doesn’t take much to become a better neighbor. In addition to block parties and community meetings, here’s how you can step up and become the very best neighbor on the block:
Start small
When in doubt, you can always take it back to basics! There’s nothing like an in-person introduction, a friendly wave from your front porch or a warm greeting in passing, no matter how brief. Not only could you quickly and easily brighten someone’s day, nurturing casual, neighborly relationships can actually help you live a longer and happier life!
Whether you’ve just moved in or are welcoming someone new to the neighborhood, sometimes the smallest actions can make the biggest impact.
Give a gift
If a warm welcome doesn’t feel like quite enough, consider gifting your new neighbors something small. This could be a plate of freshly baked cookies, a gift card to the coffee shop down the street, or perhaps some homemade dog biscuits if, let’s say, you first met at the dog park. Other fun options might include:
- Door-handle gift bags of candy, chocolates or other small trinkets.
- A bouquet of flowers or a live wreath.
- A bottle of wine.
- Your collection of local takeout menus.
- Moving-day snacks.
- An easy-to-care-for house plant.
- A decorative doormat.
Whatever your preferences, use the opportunity to make a connection. Consider including a card introducing your family members, a map with your recommended local eateries highlighted, or another thoughtful gesture of your choice.
Remember to keep it small, though. After all, not everyone is a fan of unexpected presents, and large gifts in particular can leave some people feeling uncomfortable or unequal.
Invite them in
If you have new neighbors, consider inviting them inside for a cup of coffee, a cocktail or even a sit-down dinner. After all, if you’re living in close proximity to these people, you might as well get to know them!
If you’re both first time buyers, perhaps consider chatting about your experiences, learning more about their home or even simply commiserating over the process. Or perhaps you’re planning to paint your house or replace the roof and they can recommend a great contractor! Whatever the case may be, focus on getting to know the neighbor and promoting an environment of positivity.
Don’t take it personally if your neighbor politely declines, though. They may not be comfortable with a closer neighborly relationship. In this case, just work to be a stellar neighbor from a distance.
Connect online
If a new neighbor is moving in, try inviting them to the local Facebook group or sending a link to the Nextdoor app. You could also forward any relevant neighborhood contact information, HOA bylaws, trash and recycling schedules, or other helpful documents.
While you’re at it, make a point to swap numbers. That way, if there’s ever an issue, you can get in touch quickly and easily, even from afar.
Approach any issues directly
Speaking of issues… It’s no secret that some of the most explosive neighborly disagreements tend to arise from a lack of communication. So, make a point to rise above.
For example, if your neighbor is constantly playing loud music late at night, try to speak with them directly before going to the HOA or calling the cops. In the same vein, if you plan to put in a new fence, give them a heads up. If you’re feeling especially nice, you could even consider asking for their opinion on material or color.
Essentially, you want to be open, honest and transparent with your neighbors. These traits are key in any interpersonal relationship, and neighborly ones are no exception.
Keep it respectful
Do your part to be kind and respectful. While noise is practically a guarantee when it comes to living in close proximity to others, and no one expects you to be as quiet as a mouse, putting in a little effort to better your neighbor’s living experience can go a long way.
Try to keep loud noises to a minimum, and always adhere to your neighborhood’s rules for quiet hours. For example, maybe don’t mow the lawn at the crack of dawn on Sunday mornings.
This advice goes beyond just noise, too. Pay close attention to any rules and regulations regarding light pollution, street parking, pet waste, and more. After all, community rules are only effective if we all agree to abide by them!
Maintain some curb appeal
While you don’t necessarily need to win any landscaping awards, part of being a good neighbor includes effort and responsibility when it comes to your yard. Curb appeal can impact property values throughout the neighborhood, so you’ll want to pay close attention to any rules, regulations and norms.
A few general best practices might include:
- Keeping clutter off the lawn and porches. This includes bikes, skateboards and toys.
- Mowing the grass regularly.
- Pulling weeds as needed.
- Trimming trees, hedges and bushes.
- In qualifying climates, raking fallen leaves each autumn.
- Removing any visible exterior mold.
Of course, you’re welcome to go above and beyond with plenty of foliage, blossoming trees, or a full-on garden. Just make sure your yard looks neat, clean and attractive.
Be the Best Neighbor on the Block
It’s no secret that neighborhoods are highly important social hubs, and our relationships with those around us can help promote wellbeing. That’s why it’s important to actively nurture these connections.
The good news is that whether you’re moving into an unfamiliar neighborhood or welcoming a few newcomers, being the best neighbor on the block isn’t rocket science. By prioritizing connection, leading by example and simply making an effort, you can promote unity across your neighborhood and beyond.
Published on September 19, 2022
